No matter where you are in relationship today, there is always love yet to come. And that is something to celebrate. All of us, regardless of ultimate success rate, have experienced love in the past. Some of us may be currently enveloped in it. But all of us have love that is yet to come. And that feels pretty hopeful for me on this Hallmark holiday just made to be hated.
We hosted a speed dating event last night, and it was well attended despite the copious amounts of rain that fell in Southern California yesterday. I was impressed by the turn out. I was even more impressed by the attendees. It was a younger crowd and they were happy to be there, for many of them it was their first time ever speed dating. Regardless, they were there and ready to GO!
There was one woman who looked like she was having the time of her life with each new partner. She just looked so happy, at ease and positive. I am sure she got a lot of matches. Her energy was just amazing.
There were several couples that lingered and then found their way back to each other at the end of the event. That is always good to see. I saw the same people exchange numbers, easily circumventing the speed dating process, which we strongly encourage.
You get out of life what you put into it! That is what speed dating confirms for me every single event. If you show up, scan the room, rule everyone out and then think about how long the event will take, you have a shitty time. If you show up, check your expectations by the door, bring your best, most positive self, sit down and give other human beings your attention for 4.5 minutes, everything in your world can and will change. You will make connections you didn’t have at the start of the event. You might make a new best friend (this has happened - two women who attended one of our events last year, became besties), you might have a new hiking or biking partner, you might meet your next sexual partner and you just might meet the one that takes you outta the speed dating venue forever!
And everything in-between.
The point is that if you show up and bring your best self, anything can happen. If you show up and bring the worst version of you, something else altogether is going to happen. What I observed last night was that there is always love that is yet to come. Always. It may not be the exact love we are looking for, but hey, if you are single, perhaps you are not always the best judge of what is good for you. Perhaps, you are looking for the wrong thing in the right place or the right thing in the wrong place. When you take yourself out of your comfort zone, then anything is possible.
Growth occurs right outside the place of your comfortable familiarity. For all of us. If you want something different, you have to do something different. That is how this whole living, loving and dating thing goes.
I love that none of us is done if we are still breathing. None of us. We all have a chance to find that person that makes everything in our lives better. That lights us up in ways that no one else on the planet can or does. That gets us on a level we have never been gotten before. It is all possible because so long as you are here and have a modicum of willingness, there is always love that is yet to come...
So whether you are already with the love of your life, or still seeking, I hope that today you will wake up and remind yourself that there is always more love to come. That is one of the greatest parts of life in fact. Is that we are never D O N E, until we are dead anyway. And maybe even then we are not done, we just don’t know.
If Valentine’s Day has you down today, remember there is always more love that is yet to come. Tonight it might even be found at Centennial Beer Hall in Goleta if you are in the area. Come take a chance, you might just find everything you have always wanted.
For those of you who are partnered and happy, congratulations! You have achieved what so many of us have not. Appreciate your partner and thank your lucky stars. You have found what some of the rest of us only dream about...I hope you have an amazing day loving and appreciating your current love and know that even for you, there is always love that is yet to come.
For those of you who hate this manufactured, forced holiday bullshit, there is more love that is yet to come for you too. Maybe focus on that today. Maybe allow yourself to not indulge all the slights, harms, heartbreaks and losses today. Perhaps instead you can rally on the fact that there is always more love to come. Always. Your past doesn’t have to be the decider of your future...that will only happen if you let it.
To all, regardless of relational status, I hope you have a wonderful day today. I hope you allow yourself to feel excited and livened by the truth that there is A L W A Y S more love to come!
Again...Still.
Always.
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